#7 That’s What They Say- Thought provoking insights on common quotations

When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that

happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they

asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’.

They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told

them they didn’t understand life. –John Lennon


How many of us don’t understand life? I know that in looking

for deeper meaning the answers are often elusive and

cryptic. I might suggest that in order to understand life a bit more,

study what brings you joy. Not the “things” that bring you joy,

but perhaps the circumstances. We are not our things. A new car

may make you happy momentarily, but eventually the newness will

pass and then you must obtain some other thing to make you

happy. Let go of any attachment to “things” and take a look

at what really brings you a sense of well-being. If you feel

joyful when in nature, take a walk more often. If you

feel connected to something bigger than you are and so

peaceful when you go to church, make a commitment to yourself to go

there as often as you can be. If you are task oriented and

feel a wonderful sense of contentment when you have organized a

closet, by all means ask your friends if you can help them

get organized too.

Sometimes life is not about following your passion, it becomes

about naming your passion and then offering it as your gift

to all humanity. Learn to take pleasure in every experience,

good and bad, because they are all truly a gift. You are not

going to like every experience you have, but you will be able to know more

about which ones have brought you more happiness and then

choose to create more of those moments, consciously, every


We are the architects of our own happiness. Are you aware

of what you are building? If your teacher in life gave you a

homework assignment, to decide how to be happy as you grow.

Could you do it? Can you accept a happy life? What does

happy mean to you?


Suggested reading: The Art of Happiness, A Handbook for

Living by The Dalai Lama